The 1st Date

 

The Recap

It's refreshing to know that some things don't change. The boy you meet in a bar and don't like is strikingly similar to the boy you meet online and don't like. In both cases, I usually go on the date sheerly because I hadn't been on a date in a while and out of some bizarre hope that maybe he does have personality if I only give him a chance to show it.

So, here's the recap of the date:
We met at a Ladder 15, which is a nice enough bar. And he bought me a drink. (So far I'm still behind in the output to E-harmony v. input of free drinks and dinner). And then he didn't take off his coat. And we stood around talking for an hour. It was the most awkward hour of my life. Haven't seen or heard from him since.

 Update: Due to popular demand, yes I kissed him. I know, I know. But some habits are hard to break. I wasn't sure what to do at the end.. shake hands? Hug? So I went in for the hug, but then he seemed to go in for the kiss and wasn't expecting the hug. So I kissed him. Lips only. And then ran nervously away.

 

Let's move on to what I'm calling the "Lessons Learned" segment. Because, after all, this is all about learning, not about finding love.

Lesson 1: Take more control of what happens on the date.

Standing is conducive to mingling- not talking. And mingling is not conducive to dating.

Lesson 2: There's no getting around boring.

I'm drawing a line between going out with men with whom I'm uncertain I will have a strong connection and men I'm confident will bore me to tears.