The Year of Learning How to Date- My Bad

December 12, 2011

I look on this past year and my New Year's Resolution to Learn How To Date and I think, "Check"
It was good. It was hard. I learned a lot.

I've learned that, in fact, it is impossible to escape the scenario outlayed by all of my Oklahoma sex-ed courses.

In fact, I lost my virginity to an older man, who got me drunk, and made me believe that I was the only one he wanted, and then never talked to me again. Only, in sex-ed, the girl was 16 and older guy was 19. I really thought my story would be different. But it turns out, I am living in the obvious ending.

This past year, I worked on a huge project- it basically took a year to go from conception to reality. It's a map that has the location of all our events all across the country. I had a call two weeks before the project was supposed to go live when the consultants told me that they had no way to access the city and state of the events. My mouth dropped. How can you charge me $10,000 and take up 6 months of my time and never mention that the map wouldn't have events by city or state? How were they planning on building the map?

It didn't occur to me at the time of the project to specify that I needed city and state on my map. And a year ago, it didn't occur to me to say that I wanted to learn how to date someone awesome. My Bad.

I have now dated the guy who broke up with me because he felt like he was cheating on his wife. And then he cheated on his actual girl-friend with me. So that should be the entire 'unfaithful' thing covered.

And I dated someone who was unemployed, someone who had a good job, someone who was older, someone who behaved like a co-ed, someone who intruduced the topic of us getting married and having children, I spent the weekend away with someone. Check, check, check, check.

I am (again) officially done with dating. I want a real relationship. Or at least someone who sticks around for 3-6 months. I don't know that I can do longer than that. But I don't want to spend this much effort on building a relationship only to discover that I had the right idea in June to never talk to him again.

Bring it on, 2012!